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How to attain permanent peace

Remember that so long as one’s mind attaches importance to an object and is tempted by it, nay, as long as its possession is supposed to be the sign of good fortune or God’s grace and its absence

The law of cause and effect

Every moment of our lives we are either creating something or disintegrating with our own thoughts. Remember, everything in this universe in energy, including our thoughts. Energy is neither

You Are Your Attention

We have a certain amount of breath granted daily and it fuels our being, enabling us to do our daily activities by using our minds to orchestrate our life and tend our interest, guiding us to be

Tolerance, The Atrubute of Wisdom

It is human nature that a person wants to dominate others. He blames others for his misfortunes. The lack of tolerance among human beings has created lot of problems.

Despite the fact that man wants to live in peace, he is always in a state of turmoil. One individual wants to dominate others; one race is fighting with others. Nations are at war. All the social problems and world crises that we see around us is in fact the reflection of the ego and vanity of human beings.

Ego-centered behaviors stand for dominance rather than tolerance as our style of interaction with others. Making the change from dominance to tolerance requires disciplining the ego and listening to your sacred self. The transition from dominance to tolerance is difficult because the desire for ego satisfaction is very strong. The ego-centered personality does not want to give up dominance over others. Your higher self will gently take over when you no longer control others. You will begin experiencing unconditional love and in the process you will finally find the peace that you crave.

With tolerance you become more in tune with your higher self as you forsake the stubborn demands of ego. To develop a tolerant attitude you require a keen observation of the workings of your mind and awareness of the subtle operation of the ego. You have to bring a change in the habitual ego responses to different life situations.

To become more tolerant and less controlled by your false self, start practicing being satisfied with what you have. Your ego is never quite content. If you choose one thing, your ego will persuade you to consider something else. If someone you love acts meekly toward you, your ego wants that person to be more assertive; if that person is assertive, your ego decides to dislike assertiveness. You eat too much; you start thinking about how nice all you think about will be food. If you stay at home for a long period of time, your ego start on the road and you start thinking about how nice it would be to stay home. You are not in a relationship and begin to imagine it would be nicer to be uninvolved. When you are not in a relationship, then you start wanting to be in one. Your children are running around the house and you start thinking about escaping; but when you are not at home then you think of nothing but your children.

If you identify with this kind of inner dialogue, rest assured that ego has temporarily separated you from your sacred self. If you are separated from the awareness of your higher self, you cannot achieve the state of inner balance and bliss.

As you begin listening to your higher self in quiet and contemplative moments, you begin relaxing and taking the pressure off. You stop the false thinking that everyone in your life needs to be dominated or controlled by you or that others must live up to your expectations for you to be happy.

People are the way they are and your need to dominate or change them in any way is the edict of your false self. Your ego is, as usual, trying to convince you of your separateness. It also does not want you to catch on to how it is controlling your life.

Ego projects its controlling attitude on others to keep you from seeing it at work within you. Clever ego gets you coming and going. It gets you into dominant behavior to hide its way of controlling you and at the same time it makes you dislike the tolerant, controllable persons. Why would you ever want to choose tolerance with this model?

You would not choose tolerance if you were unable to get free of those false ego beliefs. But when you gain the awareness that all of us are connected in this universe – with the same divine intelligence running through each and every one of us – and that the higher self is knowable and real, then all the surface satisfactions of dominating, controlling and judging others become unappealing.

Your higher self has absolutely no need to dominate anyone or anything. This is the ticket to freedom. Right now, though, in this very moment, your ego is working to convince you that the higher self and tolerance are ridiculous ideas. Ego will argue that tolerance means permitting criminal behavior, or health and social problems. Its favorite example is that it would mean permitting the Hitlers of the world to commit atrocities while we tolerantly look on. Your higher self can see beyond this logic.

Your higher self knows that tolerance does not imply endorsement of evil. The evils that exist in the world are independent of your opinion about them. We will eradicate evil and bring peace to the world, not by judging others but by radiating love. If you let go of judgment and the inclination to dominate and control others, you are able to replace hate and intolerance with love and harmony.

When Mother Teresa was asked if she would march against the war in Vietnam, she replied, “No, but if you have a march for peace, I will be there.” When you become peaceful within, that is what you will have to give away when you are dominated by your ego or you dominate others. If there is no inner harmony, there is no outer harmony. When you are controlling others, it is because you have permitted ego to be in control.

The paradox here is that you will affect the world in the ways that you wish when you cease trying to improve conditions with intolerance and judgement. It is only when you are not controlled by ego that you can chose to not to control others.

Your impact in the world at large begins with the smaller world of yourself. You will foster freedom and peace when you are free of ego’s control and know the peace of your higher self travelling the path of higher quest. One of the first steps along your path is learning tolerance by practicing seeing the world as it is rather than as you demand it to be.