Tolerance, The Atrubute of Wisdom
It is human nature that a person wants to dominate others. He blames
others for his misfortunes. The lack of tolerance among human beings has
created lot of problems.
Despite the fact that man wants to live in peace, he is always in a state of turmoil.
One individual wants to dominate others; one race is fighting with others. Nations
are at war. All the social problems and world crises that we see around us is in
fact the reflection of the ego and vanity of human beings.
Ego-centered behaviors stand for dominance rather than tolerance as our
style of interaction with others. Making the change from dominance to tolerance
requires disciplining the ego and listening to your sacred self. The transition from
dominance to tolerance is difficult because the desire for ego satisfaction is very
strong. The ego-centered personality does not want to give up dominance over
others. Your higher self will gently take over when you no longer control others.
You will begin experiencing unconditional love and in the process you will finally
find the peace that you crave.
With tolerance you become more in tune with your higher self as you
forsake the stubborn demands of ego. To develop a tolerant attitude you require
a keen observation of the workings of your mind and awareness of the subtle
operation of the ego. You have to bring a change in the habitual ego responses to
different life situations.
To become more tolerant and less controlled by your false self, start
practicing being satisfied with what you have. Your ego is never quite content.
If you choose one thing, your ego will persuade you to consider something
else. If someone you love acts meekly toward you, your ego wants that person
to be more assertive; if that person is assertive, your ego decides to dislike
assertiveness. You eat too much; you start thinking about how nice all you think
about will be food. If you stay at home for a long period of time, your ego start
on the road and you start thinking about how nice it would be to stay home. You
are not in a relationship and begin to imagine it would be nicer to be uninvolved.
When you are not in a relationship, then you start wanting to be in one. Your
children are running around the house and you start thinking about escaping; but
when you are not at home then you think of nothing but your children.
If you identify with this kind of inner dialogue, rest assured that ego has
temporarily separated you from your sacred self. If you are separated from the
awareness of your higher self, you cannot achieve the state of inner balance and
As you begin listening to your higher self in quiet and contemplative
moments, you begin relaxing and taking the pressure off. You stop the false
thinking that everyone in your life needs to be dominated or controlled by you or
that others must live up to your expectations for you to be happy.
People are the way they are and your need to dominate or change them in
any way is the edict of your false self. Your ego is, as usual, trying to convince
you of your separateness. It also does not want you to catch on to how it is
controlling your life.
Ego projects its controlling attitude on others to keep you from seeing it at
work within you. Clever ego gets you coming and going. It gets you into dominant
behavior to hide its way of controlling you and at the same time it makes you
dislike the tolerant, controllable persons. Why would you ever want to choose
tolerance with this model?
You would not choose tolerance if you were unable to get free of those
false ego beliefs. But when you gain the awareness that all of us are connected in
this universe – with the same divine intelligence running through each and every
one of us – and that the higher self is knowable and real, then all the surface
satisfactions of dominating, controlling and judging others become unappealing.
Your higher self has absolutely no need to dominate anyone or anything.
This is the ticket to freedom. Right now, though, in this very moment, your ego is
working to convince you that the higher self and tolerance are ridiculous ideas.
Ego will argue that tolerance means permitting criminal behavior, or health and
social problems. Its favorite example is that it would mean permitting the Hitlers of
the world to commit atrocities while we tolerantly look on. Your higher self can see
beyond this logic.
Your higher self knows that tolerance does not imply endorsement of evil.
The evils that exist in the world are independent of your opinion about them.
We will eradicate evil and bring peace to the world, not by judging others but by
radiating love. If you let go of judgment and the inclination to dominate and control
others, you are able to replace hate and intolerance with love and harmony.
When Mother Teresa was asked if she would march against the war in
Vietnam, she replied, “No, but if you have a march for peace, I will be there.”
When you become peaceful within, that is what you will have to give away
when you are dominated by your ego or you dominate others. If there is no
inner harmony, there is no outer harmony. When you are controlling others, it is
because you have permitted ego to be in control.
The paradox here is that you will affect the world in the ways that you wish
when you cease trying to improve conditions with intolerance and judgement. It is
only when you are not controlled by ego that you can chose to not to control
Your impact in the world at large begins with the smaller world of yourself.
You will foster freedom and peace when you are free of ego’s control and know
the peace of your higher self travelling the path of higher quest. One of the first
steps along your path is learning tolerance by practicing seeing the world as it is
rather than as you demand it to be.